The Big 3-0

Friday, November 21, 2014

Yep...that's what I am today! Holy crap. Thirty? How did I get here so quickly?

I don't feel any differently than I did just one day prior. What makes 30 that "magic number"? Why are so many women afraid of turning 30? 30 seems like a pretty freakin' awesome number to me! I've had 30 years to get my sh*t together. I've had 30 years to figure out who I am and what I want to do with my life. I've had 30 years to learn lots and lots of life lessons. So why is everyone so freaked out by 30?

You want to know some of the most important things I've learned in my 30 years?

1) Love like there is no tomorrow: I don't mean one person...I mean ALL THINGS. I know it does not take 30 years to figure this out but I am telling you...there is not enough time in your life to spend hating anyone or anything! Not people, not your job, not your LIFE! You are the only one who can change your life for the better. I'm sure you've heard the saying "Fall in Love with as many things as possible!" - that could not be more true! Start by hating a little less and loving a little'll opens you up to a whole new perspective on life!

2) Live like there is no tomorrow: Guys, seriously! Didn't I say before there is not enough time in life to spend hating? There is also not enough time in your life for "I wish" or "I regret". If there are things you want to them. It's as simple as that. I know some things require money but if you want to do them bad enough then you save (like there is no tomorrow) until you have the money and you go do that thing you wanted to do! You only have ONE life. Be sure to live it to the fullest!

3) Stay out of debt: By this I do not mean don't buy a house. I simply mean keep it simple. You do NOT need 5,10, 15 credit cards, I promise! Been there, done that...and you know what? I don't have much to show for it besides a lower credit score! I cannot even tell you what our debt has amounted to over the last few years and if I had it to do all over again there would not be one single credit card in our wallets! I've read somewhere you should wait 1 month when deciding on a big purchase. If, after the month is over, you still NEED that item...then go ahead and buy it (with cash that you saved up). If the month is over and you have decided that item is something you can live without then that is great...move on! If I had to put a number on it, 80% of our debt is because of the "things" we had to have for our new house. Thing that we truly didn't NEED!

4) You don't need everyone to like you: There is a quote from 'The Complete Guide to Not Giving a F*ck' - "When people don't like you, nothing actually happens. The world does not fact, the more you ignore them and just go about your business, the better off you are." - this is so true! Who cares if someone doesn't like you? It's your life, not theirs. You don't have to be everyone's friend. You don't NEED everyone to be your friend. You need to live your life for you. Those who love you, will love you, and those who do not love you...their loss!

That's it...just be you, live life, love like crazy and enjoy every possible minute!

I thought I'd have a lot more info for you seeing as I've now spent 30 years on this planet but really that is all I've got for ya.

Today is also a sad day for me...

More than I miss my grandfather (Pepaw). Today would have been his 71st birthday and it's a day we share. We lost him to cancer 5 months ago and though I miss him every is 100 times worse. This is the 1st time in my life I don't get to call him or see him for our birthday.
Love you and Miss you Pepaw. Hope you are celebrating for the both of us today.

I found this  quote on Pinterest with no source...but it is PERFECT for what I am feeling!

"Today is full of memories, happiness and tears, of birthday celebrations we've shared throughout the years. And though I'll always miss you...the endless joy your brought, warms my heart with gratitude and fills my every thought. Wherever you are resting, I hope that you can precious and uplifting your memory is to me. I feel that you are with me, in everything I do, so I will celebrate OUR birthday, but I'll spend it missing you."


  1. I hit the big 30 the past July and it was a bitter sweet time for me. I believe it will get better from here. Realizing that you do not need everyone to like you frees you up to do so much more!

  2. Happy Birthday and welcome to the best decade of your life! Seriously, 30 is the new 20. Love it - every minute. Number 4 is a great point and one that rings true in my own life too!

  3. Happy belated Birthday!! I've heard that 30's is a favorite decade for most! I looooove your advice and what you've learned through the years!!

  4. Happy Birthday and welcome to the 30's!! I was so down when I hit 30's then I learned to embrace it and love it.

  5. Happy Birthday! I know that it is hard with the loss of you Pepaw several months ago, but I know that because of his influence on your life, you live you life in a way that honors his memory. All four points you mentioned are all very true and important to keep in focus. Great post!

  6. Happy Birthday. Sorry to hear about your grandfather. Sounds like you were lucky to have such a great man in your life and I must say that I'm impressed at the great attitude you have at such a young age.

  7. Happy Birthday! I'll be 30 in March - need to work on #3 and couldn't agree with you moron #4.

  8. Hey, Happy Birthday! I just turned 30 earlier this month and celebrated with my husband and two Littles - nothing crazy, just birthday cake and kisses. Life is all about the simple joys, young or old. Cheers!

  9. Thirties were way better than 20s. If anything your self-confidence will grow. I turned 40 last month and I'm looking forward to seeing that confidence continue to grow.

  10. My 30's have been some of my best times, and I am finding who I really am. I am 37 and still feel like the day I turned 30. Happy Birthday! Cancer Sucks! I'm so sorry for your lose. It is no respecter of person.

  11. Happy Birthday! I think you have put solid foundations down on some big life lessons. Some of those there are people twice your age struggling to master. And your grandfather- I was 30 when my grandmother died. It gets easier but there will always be a sting there. Hope you had a wonderful day.

  12. I love reading your insight! Happy birthday and thank you for sharing!

  13. Fabulous post, and Happy birthday :D... Life is just beginning for you.


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